Compassion or Over-care
- Judyann McNamara, DHOM ND DHP CCH
- November 13, 2023
What to do when care-giving goes into over-care
For people who care deeply for others, it is often difficult to distinguish between balanced care and over-care. Over-care is misconstrued as affection, compassion, care-taking or empathy. An example of over-care is worry. Does worrying really do anything for someone else? Obviously not. Worrying does however, take a toll on your own health: causing stress, anxiety, aging, inflammation and contributing to the creation of chronic disease.
For a therapist or health care professional, over-care is dangerous, easily leads to burnout and can actually reduce the benefits that our caring could have for another.
MICH training involves knowing how to catch ourselves in over-care, and how to come to a truly heart centered place of compassion which does not deplete us energetically, and very effectively and provides measurable, tangible support for the other person.
How to provide support and NOT deplete
your vital energy
Caregivers must learn effective ways to provide support without depleting themselves. One of the most efficient and effortless ways to provide support is energetically.
The greatest benefit is that you have to take care of yourself first in order to provide energetic support. Providing energetic support is only effective in increasing the receiver’s health and well being when the caregiver has optimized their own vital force. By taking care of yourself effectively, and optimizing your own functioning, you provide better quality support for others.
In the conference, “The Heart of Life”, (link below) we explore how we can create greater vitality and optimal functioning through increasing the coherence of the energy field of our heart.
One Interaction can provide benefits for 4 days!
The electromagnetic field generated by our hearts has been measured to be out to more than 5 feet beyond our skin. Blood samples of people taken before and after interacting with each other, (even at a distance of 5 feet or more) show that the relatively “incoherent” state of a stressed individual can be strongly and positively influenced simply by being in the presence of someone who is in a relatively more optimized state – for up to 4 days!
How to care in a way that is truly supportive and effective
In today’s exercise you will learn to use your heart’s energy field and intelligence to reduce stress levels and optimize your own inner energetic “coherence”. Coherence corresponds to efficient or optimal functioning of your body’s systems due to a measurable degree of order, harmony and stability in the various rhythmic activities over any given time period.
You will be using your heart to affect the vagus nerve of your parasympathetic nervous system so that it initiates your body’s relaxation response with instructions to release enzymes and proteins like prolactin, vasopressin, and oxytocin, which calm you down. These practices measurably and immediately reduce cortisol, inflammatory cytokines and other stress markers associated with chronic disease. They also increase, even double anti-aging hormones such as DHEA.
Click on the link below to access the heart centering sequence.
How do you know if you are taking on too much?
Ask your heart! The second exercise, “Asking the Heart’s Advice” offers a way of connecting to your heart’s wisdom. It is most often the things we do impulsively get us into the most trouble. Before making any major decisions or committing to something more, check in with your heart so make sure that your decision is right.
Bringing interconnectedness to life
Our energy field is one of the invisible dimensions through which we are all connected, but overlook. It is just one way of experiencing the interconnectedness and wholeness of life. Our every thought and feeling is streamed to the earth and all living beings. We have an energetic impact on nature, on each other, and on humanity as a whole.
MICH is an instrument of holism, of bringing these deeper dimensions of reality and potential for hope to all humanity. These exercises can be shared with as many people as you think might be interested in helping others and making the world a better place.
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What our Students Tell Us
With each exercise and mentorship session, I continue to gain new insight regarding how I move through life. Collectively, these experiences have offered glimpses into what
true acceptance feels like (pretty amazing). I am truly grateful to the entire MICH community for helping me to see that I was actually resisting sacredness through expectation. I am very much looking forward to continuing the journey with you all!
~ Jennifer Duncan (Level One)
About Judyann McNamara, DHOM, N.D., DHP
Originally a physicist and biomedical researcher (biophysics), Judyann has had a clinical practice for over 25 years, has held conferences since 1984 and has been a teacher of courses in physics, science, health, holism and spirituality since 1975. She is a Homeopath with classical unicist training, a Naturopath, and the founder of MICH.
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