Do you ever feel misunderstood? Like your friends, family and even sometimes even your health care provider may be listening and hearing your words but not really getting what you really mean? Do you feel that no matter how hard you try to express what you think or feel, they just don’t get you?
Just because someone can feed every one of our words back to us doesn’t mean that we feel that our deeper meaning and who we are has been grasped. Being heard in a literal way does not acknowledge the deeper meaning of what we are struggling to express.
Sometimes we are not sure ourselves what we want to say or express exactly, or what we’re feeling exactly, but there is nothing worse than being misconstrued or misinterpreted in that moment of struggle.
Really being heard
We are also sometimes misled into thinking that if people knew our story, our biography and the events of our life that they would understand us. We are usually disappointed to find out that even with all those details, it doesn’t help to uncover the deeper hidden and mysterious part of us. The part of us that we know is bigger than our story, deeper than our biography, the part that is moved by the subtle, meaningful but ephemeral moments. It’s not about more explanation and details.
Listening to our own soul, or the soul of another is not only about listening to words, nor is it interpreting the words or reading something into them. It is listening to where the words are coming from, hearing the deep source of awareness and consciousness, that words can’t capture.
True listening is a process, as well as an art. It involves a surrender to this process, to let the process lead us. It requires a suspension of opinion, bias and point of view on the part of the listener. True communication and listening requires specialized training and practice. This is what MICH is most renowned for: the depth of our understanding to which we are in service. It is what has brought meaning to all of our lives.
Conscious, Noumedynamic Relationships
Learning to perceive the subtle yet profound inner world of the human being is truly the key to transforming the relationships you have with all of the people around you (including your patients) and makes the difference between hearing words and a deeper listening that holds meaning.
At MICH, we’re lucky to have Melissa Dair, who is renowned for her ability to “sink” into that delicious, wonderful level and touch those inner layers. She’s the person who inspires and directs holistic, and whole organism learning at MICH. Her ability to guide an individual to uncover their unique way of how to make their container larger has been practiced and honed over many years. Just watching her facilitate someone else is profound, moving and an opportunity to learn in and of itself.
The learning conveyed is an experiential understanding rather than a description of something. You have to be there to get it, and you might not even be sure you could explain what you’ve just understood, but you know that something inside you grew larger. It is the basis of the MICH therapeutic relationship tools we need as homeopaths, but really what every parent, spouse, friend, manager, teacher, health provider and colleague should know how to do to have meaningful relationships.
Noumedynamic Dialogue – learn to truly listen
We’re about to begin a very special course in soul based listening that we’re excited to share with you. Noumedynamic Dialogue is an in person, hands on, small group, intimate, apprenticeship style opportunity to change the way you communicate. It will run on three consecutive Monday evenings for two hours of rich learning that is not available anywhere else. There are only a few spots left, starting next week, on April 18th, so register today.
If you are familiar with Non-Violent Communication, NVC, then you will find that Noumedynamic Dialogue brings you one step further in your skills. It is not only communication that is more meaningful and effective and less confrontational or skewed, it is how to stay open and curious about the world and to be able to learn and grow. Noumedynamic Dialogue offers the opportunity to experience group mind where we can observe thought and insight as a dynamic flow of consciousness.
In Noumedynamic Dialogue you learn to pick up and understand undercurrents. Often people pick up on undercurrents, using their intuition, however interpret (mis-interpret) what they pick up from their own experience, bias, point of view. At MICH, and in Noumedynamic Dialogue, you will learn to tune into a dynamic moment and trust what you perceive non verbally, AND learn to stop the almost immediate interpretation and associations that come up. Staying in curiosity and open to inquiry (the Buddha’s “beginner’s mind”) is necessary for new insight to come to light rather than bringing our own (usual) understanding to it. We don’t know of any other schools like MICH, that are based in science and that also teach the honing of your whole organism to tune into this very different way of getting to the “heart” of what someone is experiencing. Click here to register for our next session of Noumedynamic Dialogue.
Judyann McNamara – ND, DHom, CCH
Originally a physicist and biomedical researcher, Judyann has had a clinical practice for over 15 years, has held conferences since 1984 and has been a teacher of courses in physics, health sciences, homeopathy, holism and spirituality since 1975. To learn more about Judyann, visit her profile page in our Professional Directory or click here to read more posts by Judyann.